Marriage vows are promises each partner in a couple makes to the other during the wedding ceremony. During the time of the Roman Empire the lower classes had free marriages in which the bride’s father would deliver her to the groom and they both agreed that once they were wed they would keep the vow of marriage by mutual consent. The wealthier Romans would sign documents showing the agreed property rights to declare that their union was legalized and not just a common law marriage. The oldest known wedding vows were traced back to Medieval churches. The couple could promise to love and cherish each other or the groom would promise to love, cherish and worship the bride while the bride would promise to love, cherish and obey the husband.
The most common vow that we see in Catholic weddings in the United States states: “I, (bride), take you, (husband), to be my lawfully wedding (husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.” There are alterations to this typical vow depending on the couple’s religious views and what type of ceremony the couple wants to have.
Modern couples have been altering the traditional vows by adding their own personal promises to each other. These personal vows may be favorite love quotes that the couple feels represent their love, they may be cute agreements the couple has as an oral display of these commitments.
Wedding Vows – Tips
If you are writing your own wedding vows here are some things to remember… Make sure your ceremony officiant will allow for personalized vows. Some houses of worship may require you to speak the traditional vows…Just ask! Start early – you want to leave yourself a decent amount of time, at least a month, before the wedding so you aren’t rushed and are in the right frame of mind.
Get inspired – read your favorite books, take lyrics from songs that speak to you and your relationship…use bible passages and your own words of love. Decide on a tone – do you want these vows to be humorous? Intimate? Poetic and romantic? These can be anything you feel would express your love and commitment to your partner.
Are you on the same page? Will both you and your partner be writing personal wedding vows or will you be writing them together? Needing inspiration? Make a vow date! Talk about your relationship and what marriage means to each of you. Brainstorming what is most important to you two about each other will make vow writing easier. Don’t forget to practice your vows out loud – these words are going to be heard by all of your wedding guests so make sure they sound nice when spoken. Watch out for tongue twisters and long sentences – you don’t want to stumble or run out of breath.
“Happy ending? There are no happy endings. Endings are the saddest part, so just give me a happy middle and a very happy start.” – Unknown
Love Quotes by First Class Weddings
Beatles Quote from Lovendar
Bride and Groom from Pinterest
Love Story from One Story Down
Snoopy from LOL Zombie
Peanut to my Butter from Angela Saban Designs
With this Ring and A Loving Relationship from The Lane
I Vow to Help You from Its MOH